Avoid talks about weight and attractiveness, Instead, talk about your body in terms of health, vitality, and an active lifestyle to counteract the media’s message that your body is for attracting attention (namely, from men).Ģ Talk about clothes the right way. Here are five tips from Santa Cruz psychologist Lucie Hemmen, author of “Parenting a Teen Girl: A Crash Course on Conflict, Communication and Connection with Your Teen Daughter” (New Harbinger 2012), to help prevent young girls from developing a negative body image.ġ Model a healthy attitude toward your own body. “Tiny little tops slipping around on an active little girl is akin to putting her in mini heels like Suri Cruise.” “I think the bottom line is that they emphasize breasts or create the idea of breasts,” says Witham, 42. Karen Witham, of Oakland, was equally “repelled” by some of the bikinis she saw while shopping online recently for a two-piece tankini and rash guard for her 5-year-old. “It just looks like they took an adult woman’s swimsuit and shrank it.” “The tops are really tiny triangles or halter with a one-shoulder strap, which isn’t even practical,” Dorsey says. However, the majority of girls bikinis she’s seen at stores this summer? Totally off-putting.
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The top her daughter wears provides full coverage, and so does the ruffled, skirt-style bottom. Still, Dorsey is pro-bikini because two pieces are the most efficient option when her daughter takes two potty breaks during a 30-minute swim lesson, she says. “If I see another girl in a provocative swimsuit or clothing I might say, ‘She doesn’t have nice manners.’ ” “We talk about how our bodies feel and who is allowed or not allowed to touch us,” says Dorsey, 42. Shannon Dorsey, of Concord, engages her 4-year-old daughter in body talk often. What do you think will happen when you bend down?’ “ If you want to talk about skimpy clothes, do it in terms of function, like, ‘Hmm, that skirt is really short. “Talk about the powerful things it lets you do, like hike and dance. “Talk about how good it feels when you treat it well,” Hemmen says. Instead, talk about bodies in terms of health, good eating and exercise. “It can stimulate anxiety, insecurity or shame in a girl that doesn’t have any of that.” “You absolutely can’t talk about your weight or how scandalous or revealing clothes are,” Hemmen says. You also need to learn the appropriate way to talk to girls about clothing and their bodies. Selecting a swimsuit that you feel is appropriate is not enough, Hemmen says. “Why not? They look so cute in bikinis.” A few moments later, she adds, “Even if you cover the body, the sick people are still going to think their thoughts.” The bikini fits and conceals, staying in place no matter how many twirls and dunks she does.Īppropriate? Of course, says her mother, Sanaz Vehdat, 36, of Walnut Creek. It’s blue and pink with Hello Kitty faces covering the top and bottom. Or maybe a suit like the one 4-year-old Parmida Vehdat wears as she plunges in and out of the kiddie pool at the Clarke Swim Center. I think most little girls would rather be in something pink with ruffles, sparkles and a mermaid on it.” In response to the tot modeling ‘s black string bikini, with its plunging neck line and low slung bottoms, Hemmen says, “What the hell? When I see people making unnecessarily sexualized clothes for little girls, it makes me disappointed. “If your booty cheek is hanging out, it probably doesn’t function well,” says Hemmen, who has two teenage daughters and specializes in the psychology and well-being of girls. To promote a healthy body image, Santa Cruz clinical psychologist and mother Lucie Hemmen says girls should wear swimsuits that feel good, look good and function well. Parents and child advocates say it really depends on the suit. In a society where women are sexualized at younger and younger ages, are two-piece bathing suits inappropriate for youngsters, or are we making a big deal out of nothing? Some people argue that the very conversation is the problem: That by talking about it, we are teaching girls that what they wear can lead to sexual victimization. Little girls in bikinis: Inappropriate or much ado about nothing? – The Mercury News Close Menu
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